You may remember a recent post of mine talking about reward charts, why I didn’t believe in them and why I was about to start using one to help my son with potty learning.
Well, we made the chart. And now the chart is in the bin.
Oh, he was excited enough about the idea of it. He loved making it together and in the first day he was proud to stick three stickers in the “wees on the potty” section.
However, that’s about as far as it got. And now, he won’t take his nappy off or use the potty AT ALL.
Would I go as far as saying that the reward chart actually contributed to his regression in potty learning? Well, yes. Despite the fact that he was never once bribed, just gently reminded at nappy changes that if he chose to do his business on the potty that he would get to put a sticker on his chart.
I am not surprised, actually. I am kind of annoyed with myself for resorting to the damn thing in the first place. The whole concept of reward (and therefore punishment) doesn’t sit right with me and doesn’t fit with how we want to live our lives. How can we live an unschooled life whilst still clinging to these principles; whilst still using coercion? I don’t want to train my children; I want them to learn new skills because they want to.
So it looks like I am going to have to accept that although Monkey may be physically ready for potty learning, he is not quite emotionally ready yet. It’s hard to accept that we cannot control our children in the manner that we control everything else in our busy, modern lives but it has to be done for the sake of our kids.
Now, if only I could convince him to wear cloth nappies…